Six Reasons Bad Boys Cheat with Good Girls

Copyright 2013 Aleasa M. Word All Rights Reserved

People typically assume the female partner who cheats
with the committed or married man is a woman without morals. After all, how  could she do such a thing if she has proper values in place right?
WRONG!!!

Many men have who like to step outside of their relationships love to pick the “GOOD GIRL” to cheat with and know just how to get her to participate.  These women, though intelligent can often be used BECAUSE of their lifestyles and their values in a way that leaves them broken hearted and riddled with self-esteem issues.  Here are a few reasons why “Bad Boys” love to cheat with “Good Girls.”
 
1. The Secrecy Act:  Many women who fall prey to these types of relationships have built up a solid, healthy reputation in their communities and possibly even nationally.  They have as much to lose as the man who is cheating on his wife or significant other, making secrecy something they can count on almost 100% of the
time. She can’t afford to be looked at as a woman with loose morals having to endure a public scandal.

 2. One Shot Stop:  Not everyone grows up to aspire to be the other woman.  Plenty of women have had relationships that turned out bad and end up alone. These women standing on principal often times get lonely too. These guys know she most likely never did anything like this before and will probably be faithful to them even though they themselves have someone else. This is her first time, and hopefully her last time.  

3.  Clean and Clear:  In a world where sexually transmitted disease transmissions are continuing to rise, unbelievably there are still those who assume because she’s a good girl that somehow makes her instantly disease free.  These are the women these men love!!! They can be free and clear, not using any protection assuming they can’t catch anything because she doesn’t have anything. These young ladies make it easy by proudly volunteering up front they keep their stuff in check and get tested to prove it!  In moves “Mr. I Want to Sleep with You and Dump You” to get a free ride on the good train. 
 
4.  Baby Free Zone:  When the REALLY good girls are selected, the issue of producing a baby is minimized. Because she most likely doesn’t believe in children outside of marriage, some sort of birth control (but not necessarily condoms) will be used to prevent any unwanted pregnancies.  The sad part is even with birth control, IUD or injections, nothing is 100% guaranteed and some men have found
that out the hard way.  “Ummmm, hello wifey….here’s your new step child.”

 5. Hope Springs Eternal:  Because these women usually still  believe true love exists, they are hopeless romantics deep down inside.  This kind of guy is excellent when it comes to honing in on this one and uses it to his advantage.  He appears damaged, in need of an understanding woman and she often feels sorry for him……....End Scene!!!  Wooh, who hasn’t seen this movie before? She’s hooked, desperately trying to play the role of the hero and ends up clearly out of order while he hooks his fish. He’s really good, even pretending to give her tidbits she can prove to condone her needing to help him. 
 
6. Drama Free for Me: This woman gets her feelings intertwined with him before she even realizes what is   happening.  Her self-esteem or confidence is quite high in all areas of her life except for relationships  because she's had to wait so long to get one.  She doesn’t want to drive him away and suppresses everything in her to make sure there is NO DRAMA and he will keep coming back to her.  The tough part is once she realizes she’s not number one, it’s too late and she’s in it for HIM to win it until she gets tired or he moves on. And who knows, in her mind she could be thinking “if I’m not like HER, maybe I’ll be the one.”
 
There are definitely more reasons than these that a “GOOD GIRL” is attractive to a bad boy; however, listing them all would be give those guys more ammunition.  Not all men are like this thank goodness but for those out there who are, I would hope this opens some eyes as women begin to see themselves in one of the scenarios above.  
  
At the end of the day folks, if you don’t want be tied down– simply don’t be tied down. Allow yourself the chance to sew your oats if that’s what you feel you need to do BEFORE you ruin someone else’s heart, break   their trust and leave another bitter person to fend for themselves in the world making it hard for the rest. Though it may be a dog-eat-dog world, it doesn’t have to stay that way but the change can begin with you. In the meantime, I’ll keep praying for all of you!

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