Letting Go of What's Not Serving You

by Aleasa Word                                 Copyright 2019

​We all know what we need to do to remain happy. We all know the know the things we should and should not put up with in relationships too. So since we know it all, why do we struggle through life the way we do?  Why do we continue to have the same results over and over again simply wishing for something different? 

More times than not, we end up with the same results because we don't let go of what makes us repeat the patterns in our behavior. We grow up with belief systems given to us by our families and those around us in our childhood. As we age, life's experiences often reinforce the subliminal thinking of our childhood as we allow ourselves to lean in the direction of those thoughts and beliefs. When we want something different, we try different strategies but they can become uncomfortable. When we are not comfortable whether consciously or subconsciously, we tend to retreat to a place where feel comfort hence giving us the same or similar results in our lives. 

To truly make the changes that will alter outcomes, you must learn that discomfort isn't always a bad thing. It can be the telltale sign that you are letting go of limiting beliefs that you've held for a long time. Letting go of beliefs that no longer serve you can be scary and make us feel like we are a traitor to our beliefs of those of our family. We want our beliefs to be right and we hold on somehow thinking we can prove that they are right instead of being ok with realizing they are no longer right for us in the place we currently are in our lives.  An example of such would be people who believed that women wearing pants was completely wrong and then having children who they passed this belief onto.  As time passed on, women became more independent and started wearing pants. It didn't change who they were but it changed their level of comfort on a day to day basis. In colder climates, it made life more bearable. In other settings, it simply gave women more flexibility. People got used to it and here we are today. Though clothing and mindsets about things like money, relationships, sex and such may be different we can still apply this thought process.  

If you want something different we say you have to do something different. I say you also have to think differently and be willing to be uncomfortable long enough to see that your new beliefs as long as they are not harming anyone may be the ones that change the game for you and get you better results. Let go, be uncomfortable and rethink what you believe. You deserve the ultimate life but it's up to you to believe that and to go get it. 

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