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Today is February 14 and we all know what that means, Happy Valentine's Day!  As a twitter and facebook junkie it cracks me up seeing the pendulum swing to the extremes when it comes to Valentine day haters and lovers.  A lot of the haters are people who are either financially strapped and downing the day as a stupid ode to love or singles claiming this one day does not show love when they know good and well if they had someone they'd most likely participate. Then there are those who genuinely don't believe in single day celebrations but there are less of them than we think!  Just like any other day that comes on our celebration radar, I always have the same thought......if you don't celebrate it, why do you care to comment or judge others who do?

A friend of mine had an interesting theory about the angry non-valentines day people. She said they're sexually frustrated.  After I finished ROTFL, I thought about it.  Could this be true? According to theorist Sigmund Freud psychosexual theory, our aggressive natures can be attributed to sexual repression.  Some who hava analyzed it note ego defense mechanisms being fueled by sexual urges.  So in real terms....could these people be pissed off and blowing up twitter because they're backed up sexually? Yes, I know haters may say that's ridiculous but it's worth a thought.  Now don't get me wrong I really am playing devil's advocate, but I think many thoughts are worth pondering from time to time no matter how crazy they sound. 

So what am I really saying? It's simple.  Millions of dollars are spent on Valentine's Day to celebrate "love."  With love comes intimacy and with intimacy comes sex or at least we hope it does.  A lot of people would not participate in this gift giving exchange on the heart filled day if they didn't think they'd be getting a return on their investment.  Women are complex and we want affection along with everything else.  Men....well they're wired differently and there's nothing wrong with that.  When these urges aren't met for us however, it can cause us to just be pissed off and skew our perceptions.  Sex is primal for many and intimate for others but either way it fits a basic need for closeness and belonging.  Perhaps you don't agree, but honestly even the haters would most likely participate in Valentine's Day if they had the right person and the expected outcome was the same.  

What so many don't get is that SEX is a natural part of life but many have chosen to make it a dirty word. The shock value for some of us is through the roof just by the word being mentioned.  But, what is dirty about a natural human connection?  When we don't have that basic natural connection does it affect our psyche?  Some theorists speak to the affects of dopamine, prolactin and oxytocin combined as they affect our moods and correlate a sexual attachment to the combination.

If you celebrate the day, I say enjoy it. If you don't , I say don't hate on those who do.  But, I will leave you with this thought.  Are you so vocal about your dislike because you're alone, unhappy or not able to buy something for your mate or is it because you feel your view should change the world's perspective on commercialism?